Relationship Sex Failure

Relationship Issues: Is your sex life failing?


If you had the solutions to all of your relationship issues do you think sex life would change?   Knowledge is a great help only if you have a practical way of putting your new ideas into place. Have you ever received some great “advice” and it failed miserably when you tried to introduce change into your life?   All relationships are different.   Sex is also different in each relationship.   I often tell couples that what happens “outside” the bedroom will set the tone for what happens “inside” the bedroom.   If you want your sex life to improve the 1st place to look is what’s happening when the lights are on. Let’s take a glimpse into the relationship issues that get in the way of having a good sex life.

Relationship Issue #1: Care-less Behavior

How do you show your loved one you truly care?   Compassion will change the game big time!   When you come home after a long day how do you show “attention” to your relationship? Is he or she just a “blob” on the coach? Relationship issues will get worse when you show you don’t care. Be authentic and show warmth. Touching and hugging can make a huge difference. Try it sometime and see what happens.

Relationship Issue #2: Going through the motions

Have you ever felt like your relationship was “Groundhogs Day?”   The same boring activities day after day and nothing to excite you. How much of that can you handle until things become plain and dull? Eat some new food, surprise your loved one or wear something new. Just mix it up!   Experiencing the same relationship issues over time is so exhausting.

Relationship Issue #3: Playing it safe

Be daring once in a while! If you are conservative and don’t like change dare yourself to be different. Be fun and try something way outside your comfort zone.   Men, surprise your woman with some sexy silk boxers.   Women, bring out the new hot lingerie with fishnet stockings!   Feed each other sushi. Turn each other on while the lights are on and when the lights go out sparks will fly!

Relationship Issue #4: Ignoring what’s wrong

Ignore the problem and it will go away? Don’t think so.   It gets worse and you will grow further apart.   Once you look at what’s wrong everything will begin to shift.   The more you look away the more painful relationship issues will become.   Share what’s “really” bothering you and begin to explore solutions together. Remember, you are not in your relationship alone!

Relationship Issue #5: Love will keep you strong

The strongest tree will die without sunlight, oxygen and water. What are you doing to nourish your relationship? If you think love will be enough you are simply kidding yourself.   Growing your love is a process that never ends.   How do you show your love? Spend some time looking into each other’s eyes, holding hands, having deep and meaningful conversation.   Show your love and your relationship will prosper!

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By Dr. Jeff Kane
By Dr. Jeff Kane

Dr. Jeff Kane is a Doctor in Marriage and Family Therapy and the founder of Relationships Unscripted. Over the past 20 years he has helped couples re-ignite their spark, passion and have great sex in their relationships. Learn more about the couples coaching programs, free webinars and Ask Dr. Jeff your burning relationship questions at

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